Personal ads, especially Internet personals, are becoming a standard in dating. More and more people are meeting online and through personals ads, and these services are becoming a booming business. On their way out are the singles ads of yesterday with phrases such as SWF seeks SWM. Today’s personals ads are witty, informative and hopefully effective.

If you want to keep up on the current dating scene, you will have to learn all about the world of personal ads. There are a few key points to placing a personal ad which include being honest, being witty, and including action phrases that will attract attention to your ad and make it stand out from the rest.

One key phrase to incorporate into your next personals ad is long term relationship, but only if that is what you are looking for. This phrase is perfect because it conveys a sense of commitment. This phrase lets people know that you are committed to finding an enduring relationship and that you are not just looking for a fling. Sure there may be those reading your ad that are turned off by this phrase but as long as you maintain your honesty you won’t include phrases that don’t express what you really desire in a relationship.

No baggage is another effective phrase to use in placing your next personals ad. This phrase lets readers know that you are completely free of attachments such as a spouse or children. Again, there may be those that are looking for a relationship with someone who already has children but the majority of people who use personals ads to meet people are looking for someone who is free of other commitments.

You can spice up your next personals ad with the phrase Active and adventurous. This phrase is beneficial for a couple of reasons. Active has the connotation of someone who is in shape because the reader of the ad equates active with physically fit. The word adventurous leads the reader to believe that you are romantic and daring which can be very intriguing.

Honest is another word that should be included in all personal ads. It is very unlikely that there are people out there who are looking for dishonest partners so letting people know that you are honest is very beneficial. It’s important to not only incorporate the word honest into your ad but to also make sure that the rest of your ad is extremely honest so that the person responding to the ad doesn’t get a sense of a lack of honesty in your ad.

Another action phrase to include in your next personals ad is Great personality. These words let the reader know that meeting you will be well worthwhile because you are fun to be around. It is also a great phrase to use because it indicates that you understand the value of personality in a relationship.

Enjoys travel is another action phrase to include in your next personals ad. Reading this phrase creates the image that the person placing the ad is well traveled and sophisticated, and this is appealing to many. It also invokes a sense of adventure which many find appealing as well.

Additionally, if you are seeking responses to your ad from a certain demographic group you may want to include a phrase that illustrates this. For example if you are looking to meet single women of Russian descent, you may include a phrase such as Seeks single Russian women. This may seem overly simplistic but because it is so clear, it will most likely produce the desired effect of receiving the majority of responses from single, Russian women.

If you have a love of food and enjoy exploring new restaurants, you may want to include a phrase such as Enjoys fine dining to let reader of your ad know that dining out is an activity you enjoy. This phrase can be advantageous for a couple of reasons. First, dining out is a date activity that many people enjoy so knowing that a dinner date is likely if they go out with you may result in a greater number of responses to your ad. Second, the use of the word fine in the description leads people to believe that you enjoy expensive restaurants and this can be very appealing to many readers of your ad.

Those who enjoy physical activity and keeping in shape, may include a phrase such as Fit and active to convey this message. This phrase can effectively lead to you receiving responses from those who have a similar interest in fitness. While the term fit clearly means you are in good shape and may result in a large volume of responses from those interested in meeting someone in shape, the addition of the term active may greatly diminish the volume of responses and effectively weed out those that are not interested in an active lifestyle.

An extremely effective action phrase that you can use in your next personals ad is Ask me anything. This simple phrase can lead to a multitude of responses to your ad. This simple phrase lets others know that you are honest, adventurous and open to sharing details about yourself.

The personals ads can be a great place to meet a potential partner. An ad that is written honestly and uses a few eye catching action phrases is likely to attract a lot of attention and responses. Try to use phrases that are not only attention grabbing but also an accurate representation of your personality. Incorporating phrases just because you think they will cause a large response can result in many responses from people who are not suitable companions.

Being able to read body language can give you clues of someone’s romantic interest in you. By accurately reading their body language, you will be able to tell if the other person is feeling comfortable around you and wants to get to know you better.

Understanding body language is also significant because it can ensure that you are not unintentionally sending the wrong messages to other people. Body language can often be both subtle and subconscious. If you are aware of your body language you can make a conscious effort to make sure that you are sending an accurate message to others.

The art of reading body language really isn’t difficult. Once you are familiar with a few guidelines you will come to realize that understanding body language is very intuitive. Correctly reading body language will ensure that you don’t miss out on approaching potential partners who are sending you signs that they are interested in pursuing a romance with you.

One of the most important body language clues is how close a person stands to you. Often, the closer they are to you, the greater their romantic interest in you. In general the two foot rule applies. This means that if a person does not get closer than two feet to you, they aren’t interested in a romance with you. This distance is significant because a length of two feet is approximately an arms length. Standing this far from you makes the other person feel safe that you will not reach out and physically touch them. This subtle use of body language to avoid closeness with you is a clear sign of a lack of romantic interest.

Conversely, if the person stands closer to you and within arms reach, they are not apprehensive about being touched by you and are sending you a signal that they are interested in you. The intimacy of standing close to someone is a clear body language indication that you have a romantic interest in that person.

Another clue that someone is interested in you is when they begin to copy your body language. This often happens subconsciously, but if you notice someone mimicking your behaviors, it is a clear sign that they are interested in you. This mimicking behavior is called mirroring. It can begin almost immediately and is very easy to read or pick up on.

If you notice this mirroring behavior, you may initially feel upset as though the other person is mocking you, but this is not the case. In fact, the behavior should be flattering, because it is an indication that the other person admires you and is trying to become more like you in subtle ways. More often than not the other person isn’t even aware of what they are doing, but there is a natural instinct to try to imitate those that we admire to draw ourselves closer to them. Mirroring is pretty easy to notice, and it is also a clear body language indication of romantic interest.

Body positioning can also be a form of body language that can convey romantic interest. When speaking to someone, if their body (particularly their torso) is turned towards you and leaning closer to you this is an indication of romantic interest. This “leaning in” body position leaves you unguarded and vulnerable which indicates trust in the other person. If this trust were not in existence, you would not put yourself in such a vulnerable position and would be more likely to stand with your body turned slightly away from the other person and leaning away from them.

It’s often said that the eyes are the windows to the soul. Your eyes often send body language messages to those around you letting them know whether you are interested in them. When you have a romantic interest in someone, you make eye contact and blink often. Both of these signals let the other person know that you are attracted to them.

Avoiding eye contact lets a person know that you are not comfortable with them and do not have a romantic interest in them. If you are uncomfortable looking someone directly in the eye and avoid eye contact, you are trying to send the message that you are not interested in further contact with them.

An important note about the eyes is that shy people often don’t make eye contact. If you notice that your date does not make eye contact with anyone, that would indicate shyness, not necessarily lack of interest in you. If you are shy, make an extra effort to make eye contact with your date to show your interest. Eye contact does not have to be continuous. It’s okay to look away at times.

Body language is often subtle and subconscious, but it can also send a clear message regarding romantic interest. Perhaps the fact that body language is subconscious is what also makes it such an accurate indication or romantic language. Since body language is done without thought it allows the person to send messages that they would be uncomfortable conveying verbally.

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